Instead of asking our straight friends to trek to Massachusetts to marry, gays and lesbians should ask them and their families to make big fat contributions to Freedom To Marry. (Donations can be made to the group via its web site, www.freedomtomarry.org.) Perhaps our straight friends who are getting married could include a donation to Freedom To Marry in their gift registry. Unlike other wedding presents, gift contributions to Freedom To Marry are tax-deductible.
I so would've had that on my registry if I'd thought of it. I suppose, though, that the issue had not yet been crafted lovingly into a nation-dividing wedge by Dubya, so it was a bit lower profile.